Is Revenge the Best Therapy?
I'm not ashamed to admit this — I am a huge Dr. Phil fan.
Okay. Stop laughing now.
I only say this because I was watching the other day, and the founder of the Web site "dontdatehimgirl.com" was on there, as well as a gentlemen that was suing her for the content on her site.
The background of the site is that it gives jilted women the opportunity to go on there, and post whatever they want about the lying, cheating scumbag that used to be the love of their life. The premise just sounds bad and and the site lives up to that first impression.
It also makes me wonder, is revenge really that sweet?
I've never been one to try and do horrible things to someone who has done me wrong, particularly in the boyfriend field. As cliche as it sounds, being happy and living well without the ex-boyfriend is pretty much the best revenge I can come up with. I'd rather be the girl that got away rather than that psycho that should seriously be examined.
But that's just me.
And it is not a thought shared by a lot of women, some of whom are my closest friends. Sometimes, in their mind, they are trying to hurt the person as badly as they hurt — to try, in vain, to make him, or her, understand the extent of their pain. But I'm not quite convinced it always works out that way.
Most of the revenge cases I have heard may have provided a quick feel-good feeling, but it didn't get rid of the sadness, anger and confusion that really, only time can take care of. Getting revenge only extends the moving on process, and then, not only are you left with the pain of a failed relationship, but the memory of your out-of-body moment of craziness. I fail to see the pay-off.
But maybe I haven't heard all the cases for getting revenge. Do you have a revenge story that still makes you smile? Or have you found out that getting revenge doesn't really live up to expectations?
Okay. Stop laughing now.
I only say this because I was watching the other day, and the founder of the Web site "dontdatehimgirl.com" was on there, as well as a gentlemen that was suing her for the content on her site.
The background of the site is that it gives jilted women the opportunity to go on there, and post whatever they want about the lying, cheating scumbag that used to be the love of their life. The premise just sounds bad and and the site lives up to that first impression.
It also makes me wonder, is revenge really that sweet?
I've never been one to try and do horrible things to someone who has done me wrong, particularly in the boyfriend field. As cliche as it sounds, being happy and living well without the ex-boyfriend is pretty much the best revenge I can come up with. I'd rather be the girl that got away rather than that psycho that should seriously be examined.
But that's just me.
And it is not a thought shared by a lot of women, some of whom are my closest friends. Sometimes, in their mind, they are trying to hurt the person as badly as they hurt — to try, in vain, to make him, or her, understand the extent of their pain. But I'm not quite convinced it always works out that way.
Most of the revenge cases I have heard may have provided a quick feel-good feeling, but it didn't get rid of the sadness, anger and confusion that really, only time can take care of. Getting revenge only extends the moving on process, and then, not only are you left with the pain of a failed relationship, but the memory of your out-of-body moment of craziness. I fail to see the pay-off.
But maybe I haven't heard all the cases for getting revenge. Do you have a revenge story that still makes you smile? Or have you found out that getting revenge doesn't really live up to expectations?
posted by Anonymous at 1:36 PM
3 Comments:
I have found that fans of Dr. Phil are a bit slow. Your right, i am laughing at you for saying your a fan of his. Me and my blacktooth. ;)
Hahaha...well, laugh at me all you want, old man! : )
And Dr. Phil helps out those that are "emotionally unavailable"....you could use the advice! : )
**A note to readers — this is just friendly joking between friends!**
Hey your the one dating a guy with one foot in the grave. He is older than me.
Oh and about Dr. Quack all he does is tell people the obvious thing the should do in their respective situations.
HA friends she says!
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