Are you kidding?
Those three words in the headline were uttered by me this past Friday night.
And the preceeding conversation looked something like this:
Me: "Yeah, I'm on myspace."
Other person: "Oh that's cool. I had a girl break up with me on myspace."
Me: "Are you kidding?"
All I could think of was "What happened to the nice way of initiating a break-up?"
It's bad that there are so many ways to break-up with someone — E-Mail, Facebook, Myspace, through a friend,etc — because it makes it easier to do it in the worst fashion possible. Electronic devices have helped erase manners completely.
The pros of breaking up with someone over the internet are that the hurtful and upset emotions that are inevitable in a relationship are not quite as bad. The person can write back a hurtful e-mail, but the choice of deleting it before opening it is always an option.
But while electronic e-mails are easier, it's not the most desired route. It shows a complete and utter lack of respect for that other person, and if you want to be remembered in any sort of positive light, at least have the guts to tell them to their face. Not hide behind the internet and fade away completely. All relationships deserve closure — not a one-sentence e-mail.
Or is it the way to go? Would you rather break-up with someone or have someone break-up with you over e-mail or myspace, or is face-to-face the way to go?
And the preceeding conversation looked something like this:
Me: "Yeah, I'm on myspace."
Other person: "Oh that's cool. I had a girl break up with me on myspace."
Me: "Are you kidding?"
All I could think of was "What happened to the nice way of initiating a break-up?"
It's bad that there are so many ways to break-up with someone — E-Mail, Facebook, Myspace, through a friend,etc — because it makes it easier to do it in the worst fashion possible. Electronic devices have helped erase manners completely.
The pros of breaking up with someone over the internet are that the hurtful and upset emotions that are inevitable in a relationship are not quite as bad. The person can write back a hurtful e-mail, but the choice of deleting it before opening it is always an option.
But while electronic e-mails are easier, it's not the most desired route. It shows a complete and utter lack of respect for that other person, and if you want to be remembered in any sort of positive light, at least have the guts to tell them to their face. Not hide behind the internet and fade away completely. All relationships deserve closure — not a one-sentence e-mail.
Or is it the way to go? Would you rather break-up with someone or have someone break-up with you over e-mail or myspace, or is face-to-face the way to go?
posted by Anonymous at 3:13 PM
5 Comments:
No MySpace or e-mail! That would suck!
I had an ex tell me he was dating someone else in an E-mail. Talk about having no class! I think that shows what kind of person he really was. If you can't express your feelings in words, you are definitely going to have some communication problems down the road.
Grow some balls. If you're really not wanting to be in that relationship anymore, have the tact to at least vocalize your problems.
at least it isn't a post-it like on Sex and the City.
True, but it's about as impersonal as a post-it! : )
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