Frame or no frame?
I'm big on pictures — taking them, displaying them and being in them. When I go to someone's house and a photo album is around, it's usually one of the things I always look at (but ask first, of course!). Photos are so much fun, even if I don't know anyone in them.
Until, that is, it comes to the great dreaded picture or pictures of the ex-girlfriends in your boyfriend's possession. Even if it was nothing, there is still that uncomfortable feeling when you see them. You know that the person you are dating had relationships before you — I, for one, just don't want to be reminded of them.
Luckily, my boyfriend's pictures of his ex's are limited to a file on his computer and a few old photos that just sit in an album. They are not displayed, nor would you ever know they are there unless you sought them out. And I am perfectly fine with that — I certainly don't expect him to throw them away or delete the files just because I am less-than-thrilled that they exist.
But I know I would have an extremely hard time if he had those pictures in frames and they were all around his house. That's something I haven't had to deal with, but I know more than a couple of my friends who have boyfriend's that still have pictures of the ex fairly prominently in the house. Personally, regardless of what the relationship was and what it turned into, keeping up those pictures sends the wrong message — especially if you are trying to date again. No one wants to constantly be hit with picture after picture of the ex when you are trying to establish a relationship.
What do you think? is it appropriate to keep up pictures of the ex? Or should they be taken down when the romantic relationship ends?
Until, that is, it comes to the great dreaded picture or pictures of the ex-girlfriends in your boyfriend's possession. Even if it was nothing, there is still that uncomfortable feeling when you see them. You know that the person you are dating had relationships before you — I, for one, just don't want to be reminded of them.
Luckily, my boyfriend's pictures of his ex's are limited to a file on his computer and a few old photos that just sit in an album. They are not displayed, nor would you ever know they are there unless you sought them out. And I am perfectly fine with that — I certainly don't expect him to throw them away or delete the files just because I am less-than-thrilled that they exist.
But I know I would have an extremely hard time if he had those pictures in frames and they were all around his house. That's something I haven't had to deal with, but I know more than a couple of my friends who have boyfriend's that still have pictures of the ex fairly prominently in the house. Personally, regardless of what the relationship was and what it turned into, keeping up those pictures sends the wrong message — especially if you are trying to date again. No one wants to constantly be hit with picture after picture of the ex when you are trying to establish a relationship.
What do you think? is it appropriate to keep up pictures of the ex? Or should they be taken down when the romantic relationship ends?
posted by Anonymous at 12:52 PM
3 Comments:
I think they need to be taken down if you're no longer with that person..due to a breakup. There's exceptions like death. Unless you're someone, old or young, that never wants another relationship again. If that's the case, leave um up. That'll discourage anybody.
I agree. Keep them up if you're still in mourning about the relationship but once that's over, they need to come down. I don't want my boyfriend hanging up a bunch of pictures of his ex, and I'm sure he doesn't want me to do it either!
Yah, I'd say it's probably ok to keep them around in a box in the back of your closet or something (you wouldn't want to loose your memories, good or bad, I guess), but definitely don't display them. I would definitely think twice about continuing my relationship with that person, even if they were "just friends." That's too weird!
Not even on Facebook! One of my friends found a photo of her CURRENT boyfriend with some girl in an awkward (but not "cheating") position as this girl's Facebook photo, and I've heard of ex-g/f, b/f stuff like that on Facebook, so that could be rude!
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