Picking a date....
One of my good friends from college got married over the holidays.
New Year's Eve, in fact.
And I had been so excited to go to this wedding, because as it turns out, weddings are when most of my closest friends from college can all get together. And I couldn't wait — until I heard the date. And then I wasn't so excited. Because it was on New Year's Eve, and nine hours away from where I live, it would make scheduling my Christmas vacation just a little tricky. In a fun twist, my family lives 12 hours away by car.
So what is one to do? Cut time short with the family, as well as skimp on Christmas presents, to afford going to the out-of-state wedding? Or miss seeing my friends for the first time in a long time, and the only time until who knows when? Well, I choose the family and more time and better presents.
Now, here comes the tricky part — I still feel guilty about missing it. It may have been inconvienient for me, but it's their day, and the only time they will ever get married — how could I have missed that?? It's not the first time this has happened. One of my cousins got married the Saturday after Thanksgiving, but work schedules made it impossible to make it. I have made one rule, and that is that I won't get married near a Holiday....I don't want to have any of my friends miss my wedding, and selfishly, I want my wedding to stand out.
Have you ever been in the hard position of picking a date for your wedding? Or have you been in the similar position of choosing a wedding or celebrating with family? And how do deal with it?
New Year's Eve, in fact.
And I had been so excited to go to this wedding, because as it turns out, weddings are when most of my closest friends from college can all get together. And I couldn't wait — until I heard the date. And then I wasn't so excited. Because it was on New Year's Eve, and nine hours away from where I live, it would make scheduling my Christmas vacation just a little tricky. In a fun twist, my family lives 12 hours away by car.
So what is one to do? Cut time short with the family, as well as skimp on Christmas presents, to afford going to the out-of-state wedding? Or miss seeing my friends for the first time in a long time, and the only time until who knows when? Well, I choose the family and more time and better presents.
Now, here comes the tricky part — I still feel guilty about missing it. It may have been inconvienient for me, but it's their day, and the only time they will ever get married — how could I have missed that?? It's not the first time this has happened. One of my cousins got married the Saturday after Thanksgiving, but work schedules made it impossible to make it. I have made one rule, and that is that I won't get married near a Holiday....I don't want to have any of my friends miss my wedding, and selfishly, I want my wedding to stand out.
Have you ever been in the hard position of picking a date for your wedding? Or have you been in the similar position of choosing a wedding or celebrating with family? And how do deal with it?
posted by Anonymous at 3:03 PM
3 Comments:
The best time to get married is when school is not in session and it is not close to holidays if you want a large attendance. I chose to get married at the beginning of August because there was no holiday in that month and many people were planning to vacation anyway so it was not a big change for them. In fact, some of my family planned their vacation around my wedding date which made it easier because I was married on the beach.
I think getting married anytime from Thanksgiving to New Years should be outlawed! My best friend asked me to be a brides maid (for her second wedding (?)) not only does she live in Tampa, but she chose this past Dec. 2nd to have it. My Thanksgiving plans where shot, and it made it hard to put in any vaccation time around Christmas. Not to mention the cost!!!! Hotel rooms, bride maid dresses, gas, ect... right around Christmas, I thought to myself 'How dare her'. Well we some how managed, and had a great time...but never again.
I think it is a little selfish to inconvenience the majority of your guests by having a wedding around a holiday. There are 365 days in a year -- surely you can find one that is good for you and not around the holidays.
An example of someone being considerate: my engaged friend recently asked me if I would come to her wedding if it were on my birthday. Of course I would, I told her. It was nice of her to ask.
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