Please, baby. For me?
Last night a male friend told me that with the use of my "feminine wiles," as he called them, I could pretty much get whatever I wanted out of my guy.
True or not, hearing that bothered me for several reasons. First, that implies that I would want to be conniving and manipulating toward my boyfriend because, let's face it, if you're using your "feminine wiles" to get what you want, you're probably being manipulating. Second, I wondered how my boyfriend would take it if I held things like kisses and hugs over his head just to get what I wanted. Third, I worried if I had used those tactics already.
Had I, at times, unknowingly smiled a little brighter or looked a little cuter just to get what I wanted? Probably. I'm sure he didn't sit down and watch that Hilary Duff movie with me purely because he thought it was a good, thought-provoking film. But nothing was lost by him doing that, except maybe an 1 1/2 hours of his life. So was there really a problem?
Women: Have you ever used your feminine wiles to get what you wanted? Did it work? Do most women do this? Is doing so really fair to the guy? Men: What do you think about women using their charm to get what they want? Do you know when it's happening?
True or not, hearing that bothered me for several reasons. First, that implies that I would want to be conniving and manipulating toward my boyfriend because, let's face it, if you're using your "feminine wiles" to get what you want, you're probably being manipulating. Second, I wondered how my boyfriend would take it if I held things like kisses and hugs over his head just to get what I wanted. Third, I worried if I had used those tactics already.
Had I, at times, unknowingly smiled a little brighter or looked a little cuter just to get what I wanted? Probably. I'm sure he didn't sit down and watch that Hilary Duff movie with me purely because he thought it was a good, thought-provoking film. But nothing was lost by him doing that, except maybe an 1 1/2 hours of his life. So was there really a problem?
Women: Have you ever used your feminine wiles to get what you wanted? Did it work? Do most women do this? Is doing so really fair to the guy? Men: What do you think about women using their charm to get what they want? Do you know when it's happening?
posted by Anonymous at 9:47 AM
3 Comments:
As your male friend who brought up the subject last night, my comment was made more in jest than in the belief that you yourself would use your feminine wiles for nefarious purposes. It's also a joke as to how the willpower of men in general can wilt when faced with the slightly brighter smile of their lady.
Speaking only for myself, it takes very little for a lady to get me to do her bidding, and she doesn't even have to use her wiles to do so. It's mostly because I'm just lame.
From a male prospective, I would find this horribly disrespectful and this would bring about a quick end to a relationship. Interestingly enough, I've found that life has a funny way of bringing retribution back to haunt those who wrong others...
From a female who has no 'wiles', I just have to stick to either using logic or threatening physical harm to get my way with men. Usually, the latter works the best.
I do know friends who use their 'wiles'. Some are well aware that it's manipulation and only use it on guys who are more than willing to be suckered into it. Others have just lived by their 'wiles' and basically get through life by batting their eyelashes and being cute.
Guys need to take part of the blame for this because they are usually willing to do anything for 'wiley' women... which just makes the problem worse.
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