Dating in the workplace
I tried dating where I worked one time...ONE TIME...and it was an absolute disaster. And I mean that in all senses of the word. He was in a way, my superior (not really, since we were both in college, but he was in charge for the most part), but when we first started out, he wasn't at all. Not that it wouldn't have been any less of a mistake had he stayed my equal, but being my superior gave him just a little extra leverage.
Sure, we were in college, and yes, the atmosphere in which we worked was laid back — but I learned that it is best to keep your work life and personal life separate...at least when it comes to dating. When everything came crashing down between us (and I'm talking Hindenburg crash), it was not fun at all. He had the reputation of not exactly being the nicest guy in the world, which didn't make anything better when I had to see him on a daily.
The upside of dating where you work is that the office is a good way of meeting people. You already have something in common with the other person, and you get to know them in a not so stifling setting. The bad side is obviously that if it doesn't work out, you have to see them all the time and be reminded constantly of your dating failure. Even worse is when that person starts dating again — and it's someone within the office as well.
Not so much fun — and it is definitely the reason to proceed with caution.
I know I won't do it again, as I have been permanently scarred by the guy I refer to as a name that I can't print on here. But how about you? Would you try it? Have you tried it? And how has it worked out??
Sure, we were in college, and yes, the atmosphere in which we worked was laid back — but I learned that it is best to keep your work life and personal life separate...at least when it comes to dating. When everything came crashing down between us (and I'm talking Hindenburg crash), it was not fun at all. He had the reputation of not exactly being the nicest guy in the world, which didn't make anything better when I had to see him on a daily.
The upside of dating where you work is that the office is a good way of meeting people. You already have something in common with the other person, and you get to know them in a not so stifling setting. The bad side is obviously that if it doesn't work out, you have to see them all the time and be reminded constantly of your dating failure. Even worse is when that person starts dating again — and it's someone within the office as well.
Not so much fun — and it is definitely the reason to proceed with caution.
I know I won't do it again, as I have been permanently scarred by the guy I refer to as a name that I can't print on here. But how about you? Would you try it? Have you tried it? And how has it worked out??
posted by Anonymous at 1:25 PM
8 Comments:
This topic seems to be a theme in my life right now between my friends and I. It is so hard because if you have a career, you are most likely to work with people who have the same interests as you. You have stuff in common and you spend every day together, why wouldn't you think it would work? But then if it doesn't, it really makes work a tough place to go to everyday.
I have a rule that I will never date someone that I work with. However, what works for me doesn't work for everyone, and even with my rule, the other day I just told one of my girls to go for it. I had a bad experience with it, but I think it was because it was handled immaturely, and dating in the workplace may work for others.
No matter what, though, this is key: Do not let it interfere with your job -- still get your work done!
"Don't poop where you eat." An earthy saying that makes good sense. Some people define "dating" in the workplace differently. C'mon, let's be honest and say that most of the time it has nothing to do with love and everything to do with convenience. Cop out.
I really care about my organization, and taking a risk to mess that up is like saying, "well, so what, who cares about our business?"
You NEVER get your Money and your Honey from the same place. That is an old Long term Fact that has been proven over and over and over.
bitter much?
I'm a little wary of it, but I'm giving it a shot anyway. My job comes first though... if I had reason to believe it would compromise my job, I wouldn't go for it.
It just seems to dangerous. Even the most sane people go nuts in relationships — add to that being reminded daily of failure....well, it could become a huge problem.
I don't think it's a cop-out, but I do think it screams drama. But it has to have worked somewhere along the way...I just haven't heard any of those stories, yet.
I know at least two couples it worked for-- one is happily married and the other is engaged. Funnily enough, I had dated both of the guys at different times when we were all working at the same place. Needless to say, it made things a little awkward, even though there wasn't any bad blood between us.
I've had some unprintable experiences of my own, which prompted me to say never again to interoffice dating.
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