Picky, Picky
One of my friends recently decided that she was not going to date anyone with whom she didn't see a future — an idea that seems fairly dangerous to me.
We've been talking recently about dating and making moves here on the blog, and the idea of holding out until someone promising comes along seems a bit risky. Isn't that what dating is about? Trial and error? It's true you can't (here comes a huge cliche) judge a book by its cover and the same goes with people. How many stories have you heard about people not even liking their significant other and come to find out, they were made for each other? It does happen — but you've got to be open to the possibility.
Plus, if you are in the midst of a dry spell — wouldn't any opportunity to go out and be with someone seem like a good idea? i'm not promoting dating the creepy guy at work that asks everyone out or the next drunk guy at a bar that tells you that you have nice legs, but being too closed off and picky can lead to a lot of lonely nights.
Dating means being bold, hoping for the best and expecting the worst and being open to different experiences. Shutting yourself off isn't going to help in the search for the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend.
What do you think? Is it a good idea to only date people you could see yourself marrying? Or is being open a better idea?
We've been talking recently about dating and making moves here on the blog, and the idea of holding out until someone promising comes along seems a bit risky. Isn't that what dating is about? Trial and error? It's true you can't (here comes a huge cliche) judge a book by its cover and the same goes with people. How many stories have you heard about people not even liking their significant other and come to find out, they were made for each other? It does happen — but you've got to be open to the possibility.
Plus, if you are in the midst of a dry spell — wouldn't any opportunity to go out and be with someone seem like a good idea? i'm not promoting dating the creepy guy at work that asks everyone out or the next drunk guy at a bar that tells you that you have nice legs, but being too closed off and picky can lead to a lot of lonely nights.
Dating means being bold, hoping for the best and expecting the worst and being open to different experiences. Shutting yourself off isn't going to help in the search for the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend.
What do you think? Is it a good idea to only date people you could see yourself marrying? Or is being open a better idea?
posted by Anonymous at 3:15 PM
4 Comments:
I think that it is reasonable to date people who you are interested in, but I wouldn't limit it to people you could see yourself marrying. How are you supposed to know that on the first date?! I would say that a while into the relationship if you can't see a future then you need to reevaluate.
I agree with Anon. #1. I usually don't start analyzing "do I see a future with this person" until after a couple months. However, maybe being picky has it's benefits: if you know exactly what you're looking for, you won't have to waste your time with all the guys who don't fit the mold!
I would say be open, you never know whats out there! Even though a guy could look a little dorky, who knows he couldve been the very best thing that walked by. I have a friend who turns up her nose to every guy that I introduce her to, and her ex was a horrible guy, who treated with no respect. And it seems like thats what she wants, she doesnt want the nice guy. But back on topic, I think you should give people chances, because you never know if that one you blew off couldve been your Mr. Right all along!
Why not just find someone you have fun with? Get someone you enjoy being around and you can laugh with. Worst case scenario you see a couple of fantastic movies, get some good eats, and maybe find a couple of memories on you way. If you are having fun, you are on the right path - and then most of us can figure it out from there.
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