Dating dry spells
I never really understood the concept of a dry spell.
Sure, I'd read about them in magazines, but throughout high school and college it seemed like most of my life was, well, a dry spell. "Just wait," the magazines always said, "you'll soon come out of it, and then you'll be a dating machine."
Well, that never quite seemed to happen.
I'd have one date and then not date anyone at all for months. I'd like to blame it on the fact that I was super busy, but it's not like I was never around guys. Most of my girlfriends, with the exception of one or two, seemed to be perpetually single, too. We were all fun, smart and pretty, so I don't see why dates were far and few between.
I'd like to know if most people's experiences were similar to mine and my girlfriends' or if most were constantly in the dating pool. If you were mostly single, did you mind? Are we too hung up on dating another person rather than just loving the single life?
Sure, I'd read about them in magazines, but throughout high school and college it seemed like most of my life was, well, a dry spell. "Just wait," the magazines always said, "you'll soon come out of it, and then you'll be a dating machine."
Well, that never quite seemed to happen.
I'd have one date and then not date anyone at all for months. I'd like to blame it on the fact that I was super busy, but it's not like I was never around guys. Most of my girlfriends, with the exception of one or two, seemed to be perpetually single, too. We were all fun, smart and pretty, so I don't see why dates were far and few between.
I'd like to know if most people's experiences were similar to mine and my girlfriends' or if most were constantly in the dating pool. If you were mostly single, did you mind? Are we too hung up on dating another person rather than just loving the single life?
posted by Anonymous at 9:57 AM
6 Comments:
i've noticed the serial dating more since being out of college. nobody was doing it in college.
I always just figured I didn't have much time anyway, so despite my whining I was OK with the single life in college. Now, it's just a bit annoying and I might consider it a dry spell...even if it has been my whole life.
I never was all that interested in having a relationship in college — I was too busy having fun to worry about dating. And then I started dating my BF less than a year after I graduated, so I have never had to deal with the whole "dry spell."
But it doesn't seem like much fun, so fingers crossed...I don't want to go through it! : )
Apparently I'm making a trek throught the freakin' Sahara Desert. Of course it's largely self-imposed as I haven't really pursued anyone. Then again, nobody has pursued me.
Never serial dated. I'd go out with someone and end up with them for an extended period of time. (In total, I have dated 3 people.) I broke up with the last one nine months ago after a two-year relationship.
I have a job that keeps me in the office and have no interest in going out. So, I have no prospects. Also, I'm not that attractive.
So, what you call a 'dry spell' is normal for a lot of us. It's not so bad. You learn to live alone, have expectations of dating, and come to appreciate your friends and pets a lot.
Correction:
So, what you call a 'dry spell' is normal for a lot of us. It's not so bad. You learn to live alone, have NO expectations of dating, and come to appreciate your friends and pets a lot.
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