Celebrating by the day, week, month and year
By the very meaning of the word, an anniversary occurs once a year. It is an annual celebration for the recurrance of a yearly event. However, when it comes to relationships, the word "anniversary" is used rather loosely.
A couple who has just met, for instance, may celebrate their one-week "anniversary." Another may celebrate their "anniversary" monthly. I'm pretty sure most of us use the term for lack of a better word (Happy Monthsary just doesn't sound right), but still, does it ever reach a point where enough is enough?
I have a friend who said he hated it when girlfriends wanted to celebrate their "anniversary" every month. In my relationships, I don't expect a full out celebration, but a text message, phone call or mention in passing is nice. Months are like mini-milestones, and eventually, if all goes well, you'll get your real anniversary. (However, I am a fan of a celebration for the six-month anniversary).
Counting weeks is a little much, though. I'm not gonna lie; when I first start dating someone, if I'm really excited, I count the weeks for about a month, but after that, I quit. We have so many other things going on in our lives, we can't count weeks, too. What's next, counting days, hours, minutes. Can you imagine someone saying: Happy Anniversary, sweetie! We've now been together 3,876 hours and 32 minutes.
What do you think? Do anniversaries matter? How many anniversaries are too many?
A couple who has just met, for instance, may celebrate their one-week "anniversary." Another may celebrate their "anniversary" monthly. I'm pretty sure most of us use the term for lack of a better word (Happy Monthsary just doesn't sound right), but still, does it ever reach a point where enough is enough?
I have a friend who said he hated it when girlfriends wanted to celebrate their "anniversary" every month. In my relationships, I don't expect a full out celebration, but a text message, phone call or mention in passing is nice. Months are like mini-milestones, and eventually, if all goes well, you'll get your real anniversary. (However, I am a fan of a celebration for the six-month anniversary).
Counting weeks is a little much, though. I'm not gonna lie; when I first start dating someone, if I'm really excited, I count the weeks for about a month, but after that, I quit. We have so many other things going on in our lives, we can't count weeks, too. What's next, counting days, hours, minutes. Can you imagine someone saying: Happy Anniversary, sweetie! We've now been together 3,876 hours and 32 minutes.
What do you think? Do anniversaries matter? How many anniversaries are too many?
posted by Anonymous at 10:14 AM
6 Comments:
I've never been all that big on anniversaries, because really, I'm not sure they count all that much until you are married.
Sure, when my one-year and two-year anniversaries came around, I made mention of them, but I didn't expect, nor did I plan, a huge ordeal. Like I said, when I am married, then it will be treated a little bit more special, but right now, counting months seems a but silly — and I can't even get started on how I feel about counting weeks at a time!
I just had my 7 yr. anniversary and we didn't make a big deal of it at all. We did go out to the Chinese Restaurant and have supper. I used to get my feelings hurt real bad about no big deal being made about our anniversary, but not any more.
I remember counting the months in high school, but I never counted weeks. If I did, it was only when someone had asked how long we'd been dating.
I do celebrate years, however, only because I think it's a good excuse to get dressed up and go to a nice dinner. I've been with my guy for about four years, and I enjoy reminiscing on time spent!(I will admit, though, that I have to remind him - he's not so good with dates.)
I'm not big on anniversaries, and I think the small ones are obnoxioius.
But I may be a bit jaded, I'm single and have been for a long, long time.
My boy and I are having a hard time figuring out what constitutes our anniversary. (We're not married.) Is it when we first started talking? When we had our first date? When we first decided we were a couple? Or something in-between?
I think we eventually settled on first date.
My boy and I also had a hard time figuring out our "anniversary." (We, too, are not married.) Since we knew each other for a while prior to going out, and we couldn't pinpoint an "official" first date, we made ours from when we had our first kiss.
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