Dating someone high maintenance
Your girlfriend is hot. And she knows it.
She primps and preens, demands ungodly amounts of attention AND expects you to be at her beck and call. An alarm should be going off by now: you're dating one high maintenance chick.
High maintenance women never seem to have problems getting dates. Their good looks and incessant demand for attention from guys lets them know that she's into them. However, these women can have trouble keeping men, once they find out how demanding she is.
I consider myself medium maintenance. I have high maintenance and low maintenance tendencies, so I probably fall just about in the middle of the spectrum. Of course, when I asked my guy, he said, "No comment." We all know what that means.
Perhaps the worst kind of high maintenance woman is the kind that thinks she's low maintenance. At the slightest suggestion that she's being too demanding, she pouts and exclaims, "I am NOT high maintenance!" These women can't control their demands because they don't even know they're making them. That's where the danger comes in.
Men can be high maintenance, too, although you hardly ever hear about it. You know, those pretty boys who spend more time in the gym than with you and then expect you to have dinner waiting when they get home.
So, if you're dating someone high maintenance, how do you deal with it? Or do you drop him or her at the slightest inkling of being high maintenance? Are you high maintenance?
She primps and preens, demands ungodly amounts of attention AND expects you to be at her beck and call. An alarm should be going off by now: you're dating one high maintenance chick.
High maintenance women never seem to have problems getting dates. Their good looks and incessant demand for attention from guys lets them know that she's into them. However, these women can have trouble keeping men, once they find out how demanding she is.
I consider myself medium maintenance. I have high maintenance and low maintenance tendencies, so I probably fall just about in the middle of the spectrum. Of course, when I asked my guy, he said, "No comment." We all know what that means.
Perhaps the worst kind of high maintenance woman is the kind that thinks she's low maintenance. At the slightest suggestion that she's being too demanding, she pouts and exclaims, "I am NOT high maintenance!" These women can't control their demands because they don't even know they're making them. That's where the danger comes in.
Men can be high maintenance, too, although you hardly ever hear about it. You know, those pretty boys who spend more time in the gym than with you and then expect you to have dinner waiting when they get home.
So, if you're dating someone high maintenance, how do you deal with it? Or do you drop him or her at the slightest inkling of being high maintenance? Are you high maintenance?
posted by Anonymous at 10:13 AM
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This reminds me of the conversation in "When Harry Met Sally" when Harry explained to Sally that she was one of those that was high maintenance but thought she was not.
I know that I probably am, although I don't think it is all the time. There are certain situations where the BF has to work overboard, but in my mind, there are probably times when I have to work like that in regards to him....so it all evens out! : )
Men want high-maintenance women. They want a woman who has to have them around for this or that. Otherwise, they don't feel needed. The simple need for companionship just is not enough.
They want damsels in distress to save. They want to be heroes to pretty girls.
Feel good about having a boyfriend remark about you being high maintenance. That means he is willing to do things for you --- sometimes begrudgingly. But, in the end, he still does them.
A couple of guys have accused me of being "too low maintenance." I guess I'm not very good at making them feel needed or something.
I wish more guys realized that clinginess is not an incredibly attractive trait. I don't want to feel like someone else's entire self-esteem structure is based on me. I have a hard enough time with my own self-esteem. I don't need to struggle with someone else's.
I'm married to a high-maintenance women. The comment that men want this is only partially true. While dating, it was nice to know she needed me; that I was the answer. For me, it was all part of the chase and conquest.
Now, high-maintenance takes on a whole new meaning. While I still enjoy doing things for her, it is not the same as before. And yes, she does "think" she is low-maintenance.
I guess what I'm trying to say from a guys perspective; high-maintenance is good in the youth of love; but needs to be toned way down as the relatinship evolves.
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