Home for the Holidays?
This will be the third Holiday season my boyfriend and I have been together. Our first Thanksgiving, we cooked at his apartment with a bunch of friends, while last year he went home (out of state) while I spent the day with friends. This year, we'll be cooking together, just the two of us, in what promises to be a quiet day.
Needless to say, Thanksgiving has always been an easy day to decide. And for the first two years, Christmas has been as well — mainly because he has been overseas with the Military for Christmas and New Years. Not exactly ideal, but thankfully that yearly trip for him is not taking place this year.
But that leaves the ultimate dilemna of what to do about the holiday. Christmas has always been very big in my family — for as long as I remember, we have had the same tradition year after year. It involves lots of family and traveling, and it just overall a very good day. One this year, I want to share with my boyfriend.
We're working out the plans, and it does seem that he will be able to brave the cold of the North to come home with me, but I'm sure it's not that easy in some relationships. What happens when both of you are close to your families and both want to see them for the holidays? How do you decide where to go without upsetting anyone or getting upset?
How will you and your significant other handle the holidays? Or how has it worked in the past? I know I would never hear the end of it from my family if I missed Christmas, have you chosen the BF or husband's family and not been fully forgiven?
Needless to say, Thanksgiving has always been an easy day to decide. And for the first two years, Christmas has been as well — mainly because he has been overseas with the Military for Christmas and New Years. Not exactly ideal, but thankfully that yearly trip for him is not taking place this year.
But that leaves the ultimate dilemna of what to do about the holiday. Christmas has always been very big in my family — for as long as I remember, we have had the same tradition year after year. It involves lots of family and traveling, and it just overall a very good day. One this year, I want to share with my boyfriend.
We're working out the plans, and it does seem that he will be able to brave the cold of the North to come home with me, but I'm sure it's not that easy in some relationships. What happens when both of you are close to your families and both want to see them for the holidays? How do you decide where to go without upsetting anyone or getting upset?
How will you and your significant other handle the holidays? Or how has it worked in the past? I know I would never hear the end of it from my family if I missed Christmas, have you chosen the BF or husband's family and not been fully forgiven?
posted by Anonymous at 2:44 PM
4 Comments:
If I opted to spend Christmas with a family other than my own, my mom would be very upset. Christmas is an important time, and it's a chance for the whole family to spend quality time together.
This year I will be spending Christmas Eve and Day at home, but on the 26th I'm flying to visit my boyfriend and his family (who I'll be meeting for the first time ... eek!). And my boyfriend's spending Thanksgiving with me and my family. I think it's going to work out pretty well, and I'm excited about it.
The holidays actually work out perfect for what is now my husband and I. His family has always been big into celebrating on Christmas Eve and my family has always celebrated on Christmas Day. I am glad it has worked out so well though because the holidays and our families mean so much to both of us that it would be hard to have to choose.
With my husband, the first couple of years we tried the ol' go to his house for brunch and my house for lunch...of course that ended up being quite stressfull. And both sides of the family felt we were 'rushing'. So we made it simple last year, (he is an only child) so his parents just come over now to my side of the family's Christmas. We have so many people it was like 'whats two more'. So it works out for us now.
Happy Holiday's!
So, I wanted to share this update with everyone — My BF told me yesterday he will come home with me for Christmas. It's exciting because there are a few members of my family he hasn't met, and he has never been home with me! I'm so excited — it's definitely going to be a great holiday! : )
And it seems, from the responses, that deciding where to spend the Holidays gets worked out on its own...which is great, because the Holidays can get crazy as it is without the extra stress! : )
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