The Inevitable Slump
It happens in every long-term relationship. After the newness dies down, the relationship becomes littered with good times, bad fights, uncertainty, certainty and all of the other stuff that finds its way in — all rolled into a neat package shared between two people.
I was talking with a friend the other day who is in that new dating phase, and I found myself wishing I was back there — with my boyfriend, of course. Obviouslly, it's impossible to start new, or to get those jitters that happen the first couple months of dating, but I have to believe there is a way to get the honeymoon feeling back.
My BF and I are going on a long road trip next week, and I think that time together (Hi 12 hours!) will get us back in giddy-mode, because it's been awhile since the two of us have had a chance to just relax and have fun together. We're always on the go lately.
What suggestions do you have for getting your long-term relationship out of the inevitable slump? And what actions should be avoided at all costs?
I was talking with a friend the other day who is in that new dating phase, and I found myself wishing I was back there — with my boyfriend, of course. Obviouslly, it's impossible to start new, or to get those jitters that happen the first couple months of dating, but I have to believe there is a way to get the honeymoon feeling back.
My BF and I are going on a long road trip next week, and I think that time together (Hi 12 hours!) will get us back in giddy-mode, because it's been awhile since the two of us have had a chance to just relax and have fun together. We're always on the go lately.
What suggestions do you have for getting your long-term relationship out of the inevitable slump? And what actions should be avoided at all costs?
posted by Anonymous at 1:55 PM
2 Comments:
Or, better yet, how can you tell if you're in a slump for a reason?
That's a good point, Anon #1. What if the slump is a sign that things are bad, or that you need break?
I don't think that all slumps are a warning for disaster or the end of relationship. It happens when people get stressed, or every day life just gets in the way to a point where you just get stuck in a rut.
However, if the relationship gets really bad or he or you start acting different, then it is time to re-examine what is going on.
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