The ultimatum
One of my friends from college just got engaged. Not that it was all that unexpected, especially because she had given her boyfriend an ultimatum that went something like this — "Propose by Christmas, or we are over."
So, he proposed.
I am not fan of ultimatums, because I think it just starts the entire life together on the totally wrong note. In my mind, it says, "I think you are the one I want to spend my life with, but if you don't hurry up with it, I'm leaving you." I don't do well with being forced to do things, and so I am not about to try and force people into doing things they don't want to.
But it's not uncommon, really. I know many girls who get to a point in the relationship where they are ready for it to move forward, and force is the only way to do that.
What do you think about ultimatums? Do they work, or do they hurt in the long run?
So, he proposed.
I am not fan of ultimatums, because I think it just starts the entire life together on the totally wrong note. In my mind, it says, "I think you are the one I want to spend my life with, but if you don't hurry up with it, I'm leaving you." I don't do well with being forced to do things, and so I am not about to try and force people into doing things they don't want to.
But it's not uncommon, really. I know many girls who get to a point in the relationship where they are ready for it to move forward, and force is the only way to do that.
What do you think about ultimatums? Do they work, or do they hurt in the long run?
posted by Anonymous at 3:33 PM
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If the person doesn't make the decision on their own, then you shouldn't force their hand because when it doesn't work you will be the one to blame. If you bold enough to give someone an ultimatum, then you should be bold enought to walk away from something that is not good for you.
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