He's the baby
One of my best friends was so excited about her boyfriend's upcoming birthday a little while back, and was planning a party at the home they shared for their friend's and family. She had picked a day, worked around everyone's schedule and was planning the food and decorations before she hit one major roadblock — his mother.
The mother decided SHE wanted to hold the party, and became so overbearing that my friend finally erased all of her original plans, and wiped her hands of the whole thing. The mom got her way, the party and a visit from her baby boy — everything she wanted.
It is not a secret that guys are supposedly "Momma's Boys," and when you come across the worst of the worst, the mom can't even leave her house with calling her "baby" to let him know where she is going, and when she'll be back. And of course, the boy never backs down to his mom — always taking her phone calls, always visiting when she asks, always taking her advice.
The problem with that is when a man already has one woman taking up a majority of time in his life, he doesn't always have time to devote the energy he needs to another one. It is for that reason that makes it dangerous to get involved with one of these guys. At first he is wonderful, and look how cute he is with his mom. But then as the relationship evolves and becomes more serious, that orginal cuteness turns into a downright annoyance. But you can't make a guy choose between his mother and you, because that is a losing battle.
I've never gotten involved with a guy that is so wrapped around his mother's finger he can't think straight, but I have commiserated on my friend's experience. She has been with the guy long enough that she can talk to him about it, and he is making baby-steps into becoming an adult and not doing everything his mother asks, but some girls aren't so lucky. Some have to deal with the mom coming and cleaning the house, doing laundry and cooking meals — stuff the girlfriend would like to do every once and awhile...or at least pretend to want to do.
How do you handle a "momma's boy?" Are they forever hopeless, or is there a way to balance mom and girlfriend?
The mother decided SHE wanted to hold the party, and became so overbearing that my friend finally erased all of her original plans, and wiped her hands of the whole thing. The mom got her way, the party and a visit from her baby boy — everything she wanted.
It is not a secret that guys are supposedly "Momma's Boys," and when you come across the worst of the worst, the mom can't even leave her house with calling her "baby" to let him know where she is going, and when she'll be back. And of course, the boy never backs down to his mom — always taking her phone calls, always visiting when she asks, always taking her advice.
The problem with that is when a man already has one woman taking up a majority of time in his life, he doesn't always have time to devote the energy he needs to another one. It is for that reason that makes it dangerous to get involved with one of these guys. At first he is wonderful, and look how cute he is with his mom. But then as the relationship evolves and becomes more serious, that orginal cuteness turns into a downright annoyance. But you can't make a guy choose between his mother and you, because that is a losing battle.
I've never gotten involved with a guy that is so wrapped around his mother's finger he can't think straight, but I have commiserated on my friend's experience. She has been with the guy long enough that she can talk to him about it, and he is making baby-steps into becoming an adult and not doing everything his mother asks, but some girls aren't so lucky. Some have to deal with the mom coming and cleaning the house, doing laundry and cooking meals — stuff the girlfriend would like to do every once and awhile...or at least pretend to want to do.
How do you handle a "momma's boy?" Are they forever hopeless, or is there a way to balance mom and girlfriend?
posted by Anonymous at 1:22 PM
3 Comments:
Simple...leave them with their mamas. They are too much of a headache and at this point I am low on Advil!
My boyfriend is a momma's boy. His mother could not stand me for the first few years we were together, and he used to do all of those things (take calls, visit every time she asked, etc.). After a while though, he finally stood up to his mom and told her that it was his life, and if she didn't want me around, she wouldn't see him as much. She has since changed her opinion of me, and we can actually even have a conversation now. I guess with a momma's boy, you just have to be persistent, or at least have a high tolerance for BS.
Hopefully everyone struggling with a momma's boy eventually gets him to stand up and be an adult, like anon no. 2 suggested....
If not, I agree. They are a headache!
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