Long distance love
When I went to my cousin's wedding this summer, I met a man who was in a successful relationship with a woman who lives in China. Unfortunately, the man lives in Virigina. USA. And I thought my two-hour drive north to my boyfriend was hard. Dating someone half a globe away seems unimaginable!
Yesterday Roxy talked about military wives straying from husbands overseas. It's true, when your significant other isn't around most of the time, you can feel like you're missing out. Just yesterday I wanted to celebrate one of my boyfriend's accomplishments with him, but the most I could do was offer a hearty "That's great! I'm so proud of you!" Sometimes I even feel jealous, like when he goes out with all his friends and then tells me about the great time he had — without me. I'm not going to pretend that dating someone two hours away is the same as dating someone in the Middle East, but I can share some tips I've found help keep a long distance relationship going — and keeping those cheating moments out of sight.
• Make sure to talk on the phone. This one sounds obvious, but some couples don't make sure that there's a moment in the day when both of them aren't busy. My boyfriend and I make sure to talk every night right before bed, even if it's just for a minute to say goodnight.
• Use online communication. E-mail personalized greeting cards, poke him on Facebook, or stream "your song" on MySpace to remind him that you're thinking about him.
• The postman is your friend. Bake cookies and mail them. Stay away from frosting because it could smear and make a mess. Send photos or something else you created yourself.
• Make time to see each other. Both of you have your own lives that you have to get a hold of, but you also need to see each other whenever you have a chance. If the distance is drivable, take turns. Same with flying. Those who don't make the time, won't end up being able to withstand the distance.
Anyone else in a long-distance relationship out there? What do you do? I surely could use some more tips.
Yesterday Roxy talked about military wives straying from husbands overseas. It's true, when your significant other isn't around most of the time, you can feel like you're missing out. Just yesterday I wanted to celebrate one of my boyfriend's accomplishments with him, but the most I could do was offer a hearty "That's great! I'm so proud of you!" Sometimes I even feel jealous, like when he goes out with all his friends and then tells me about the great time he had — without me. I'm not going to pretend that dating someone two hours away is the same as dating someone in the Middle East, but I can share some tips I've found help keep a long distance relationship going — and keeping those cheating moments out of sight.
• Make sure to talk on the phone. This one sounds obvious, but some couples don't make sure that there's a moment in the day when both of them aren't busy. My boyfriend and I make sure to talk every night right before bed, even if it's just for a minute to say goodnight.
• Use online communication. E-mail personalized greeting cards, poke him on Facebook, or stream "your song" on MySpace to remind him that you're thinking about him.
• The postman is your friend. Bake cookies and mail them. Stay away from frosting because it could smear and make a mess. Send photos or something else you created yourself.
• Make time to see each other. Both of you have your own lives that you have to get a hold of, but you also need to see each other whenever you have a chance. If the distance is drivable, take turns. Same with flying. Those who don't make the time, won't end up being able to withstand the distance.
Anyone else in a long-distance relationship out there? What do you do? I surely could use some more tips.
posted by Anonymous at 1:10 PM
1 Comments:
My BF and I are new to this long-distance relationship thing, but the good news is (to anyone in a LDR or about to be) that it's only made our relationship stronger.
We make sure to talk or text message several times a day (starting with one at 7 a.m. from my BF on his way to work — sweet...but soooo early!), and like Rose said, we make sure to say good night every night.
The nice thing is that he is only two hours away, so I think we have had only one weekend in three months that we haven't seen each other. It's in a cool place to, so I like having a "vacation home."
The biggest things to remember is to communicate often. Since you are missing out on the every day things, it's important to keep that up.
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