Friends with benefits?
The whole idea of "Friends with Benefits" is great in theory for some people, but eventually, someone ends up getting hurt.
And usually, it is the woman in the relationship.
I spent the weekend visiting a friend of mine (the one who unfortunately dated a guy named Randy), and she is involved in a relationship right now with a man who has made it abundantly clear that he is not interested in a committed relationship. He is available, however, for another type of relationship. And while she isn't quite happy with the set-up, she cares too much about him to walk away.
And in lies the entire problem with having your own "buddy."
Especially for women, it gets to be too hard to separate your emotional side, even though you know you should. If you care about the guy (or girl, because some guys get attached when they shouldn't as well), sometimes it seems better to have them any way you can, even if it is unhealthy for you. Because inevitably, in the back of your mind, the other person will eventually come around.
But that rarely happens. What usually ensues is an awkward, "I like you, but not in that way," talk, and even though it is known that nothing further is going to be pursued, neither will let go. At least not until one or both of the parties find someone worth dating — who actually wants to date them back.
From my own experiences, and situations I have watched my friends endure, it's a relationship that, when it is all played out, just isn't worth it. Or is it? Can some people completely detach themselves, and enjoy the relationship for what it is?
And usually, it is the woman in the relationship.
I spent the weekend visiting a friend of mine (the one who unfortunately dated a guy named Randy), and she is involved in a relationship right now with a man who has made it abundantly clear that he is not interested in a committed relationship. He is available, however, for another type of relationship. And while she isn't quite happy with the set-up, she cares too much about him to walk away.
And in lies the entire problem with having your own "buddy."
Especially for women, it gets to be too hard to separate your emotional side, even though you know you should. If you care about the guy (or girl, because some guys get attached when they shouldn't as well), sometimes it seems better to have them any way you can, even if it is unhealthy for you. Because inevitably, in the back of your mind, the other person will eventually come around.
But that rarely happens. What usually ensues is an awkward, "I like you, but not in that way," talk, and even though it is known that nothing further is going to be pursued, neither will let go. At least not until one or both of the parties find someone worth dating — who actually wants to date them back.
From my own experiences, and situations I have watched my friends endure, it's a relationship that, when it is all played out, just isn't worth it. Or is it? Can some people completely detach themselves, and enjoy the relationship for what it is?
posted by Anonymous at 10:59 AM
3 Comments:
If you want to understand the friends with benefits phenomenon, you should watch MTV's "True Life: Friends with Benefits." Just watching that show proves that friends with benefits is always a bad idea, someone always ends up getting hurt and if both people wanted to date eachother, they would already.
Monday, April 30th??? It's only October 9th ??!!!!!!
The whole friends with a big F is just an excuse for sex without commitment. That's why it's a lot more popular with men than women.
It's very simple. It can never work for a long time. Intimacy leads to emotional attachment for most women.
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