Rush, rush

True story. One of my best guys friend's from college called me one night and asked me to meet him and his new girlfriend at the bar. She was wonderful, he said, and he was completely head over heels about her.

To my surprise, I apparently didn't quite understand the depths of his emotions when I showed up and watched to two of them together. They were constantly giggling and smiling at each other, holding hands all night and whispering "I love you's" all evening.

Their relationship was five days old at that point. FIVE DAYS.

While I asked him to please be careful and maybe slow down just a little, it turns out he knew what he was doing. They were engaged a year later and married not long after that. And they are truly wonderful together.

But it always amazes me when I hear stories like that. People who are together for less than three months and already planning a wedding, or others who move in together after four months and then get married not long after that.

I always thought I was the type that would love a relationship like that — one so filled with immediate passion and understanding that while logic would be saying slow down, I'd jump right in.

And yet, whenever I hear a story like any of the above, I get completely freaked out. In fact, I like taking my time in a relationship because from what I have found through my own experiences is that it takes awhile to truly know someone. To find out their quirks and see if you love them anyway, to go through those rough times that seem so rocky it would be easiest to end the relationship than work through it. It's important, I think, to experience the ups and downs before taking a leap so great as marriage.

This also may be attributed to my indifference to marriage. While one day I would like to be married, I am in no way in a rush to get there — a thought that completely eases my like-minded boyfriend.

But it's funny the stories that work out. Those people who have been together for a month and planning a wedding or people who waited five years before deciding forever was a commitment they wanted to make to each other.

What do you think of these stories, or do you have one of your own? And what type of person are you? Would you leap without knowing the information, or would you study every aspect before making the jump?