Hint, hint, hint
One of my friends is ready to get married, while her live-in boyfriend...well, let's just say he's not quite there.
And it's not like she hasn't done all she can to broach the subject — they've had more than a couple discussions and even made a trip to the engagement ring section of a jewelry store today. He didn't freak out, and even pointed to a couple she should try on (improvement!), but they walked out of the store empty-handed and not a word was spoke of it since.
It can be a very scary thing to tell your significant other that you are ready for a larger commitment in the relationship — especially if that extra step is marriage. I mean, let's be honest. Two people don't necessarily move at the same pace, especially when it comes to moving forward with another person. And talking about becoming "exclusive" is a lot easier than saying, "Ok, I feel the time has come that we need to get married."
And I'm sure my friend and her BF will soon be engaged, followed by a marriage — it just might not come as soon as she hopes or wants. But that waiting game is even more difficult. What do you do when you bring up the idea of marriage, only to have it shot down and then ignored?
It's a tricky, tricky situation — how do you handle it? What is a good way to bring up this topic? And what do you do if you don't get the response you want?
And it's not like she hasn't done all she can to broach the subject — they've had more than a couple discussions and even made a trip to the engagement ring section of a jewelry store today. He didn't freak out, and even pointed to a couple she should try on (improvement!), but they walked out of the store empty-handed and not a word was spoke of it since.
It can be a very scary thing to tell your significant other that you are ready for a larger commitment in the relationship — especially if that extra step is marriage. I mean, let's be honest. Two people don't necessarily move at the same pace, especially when it comes to moving forward with another person. And talking about becoming "exclusive" is a lot easier than saying, "Ok, I feel the time has come that we need to get married."
And I'm sure my friend and her BF will soon be engaged, followed by a marriage — it just might not come as soon as she hopes or wants. But that waiting game is even more difficult. What do you do when you bring up the idea of marriage, only to have it shot down and then ignored?
It's a tricky, tricky situation — how do you handle it? What is a good way to bring up this topic? And what do you do if you don't get the response you want?
posted by Anonymous at 3:28 PM
3 Comments:
If he actually suggested she try some rings on, I'm with you - they'll be engaged soon. But give the guy a little time. Much like we spend hours (days, weeks, months) planning the wedding day, most guys actually DO spend a little time planning the proposal. They want it to be perfect for us, after all, or we might say "no!" And not buying a ring in her presence is a GOOD thing - he's got an idea of what she likes, now he's got to match it up to what he can afford - plus she'll still be surprised.
I agree with Misty. The shopping trip was so he could get an idea of what she likes, without actually letting her pick out the ring.
True — and as an update, he's been throwing in the "When we are married" type sentences on a daily! : ) So, it could be imminent!
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