Snooping in the information age
I'm pretty sure it's safe to say that all of us have snooped (or did a little background checking) on a significant other or potential mate at some point in our lives.
The Internet, of course, makes it insanely easy to do so. Not only can you "Google" you SO's name, but you can also read their blog, check out their MySpace page and Facebook "stalk" them without so much as a blink of the eye. This method of snooping is pretty harmless. Whatever your SO wrote was put out there in a public forum for anyone to read, so it's fair game.
But then if you so choose, you can delve deeper. Passwords can be left lying around, you can stealthily watch as your SO types or you may even share your passwords with each other. Either way, it opens the door for reading more private material, such as e-mails or messages on networking sites. Or, say your SO leaves his or her cell phone lying around. With just a few key punches, you have access to text messages.
While this is all easy, should you do it?
Are you violating your SO's trust if you read their text messages and e-mails? Or, should everything be fair game, because, let's face it: Why does it matter if you have nothing to hide?
Have any of you snooped on an SO? How did you do it? Did your SO find out? Did he/she care? Is snooping OK?
The Internet, of course, makes it insanely easy to do so. Not only can you "Google" you SO's name, but you can also read their blog, check out their MySpace page and Facebook "stalk" them without so much as a blink of the eye. This method of snooping is pretty harmless. Whatever your SO wrote was put out there in a public forum for anyone to read, so it's fair game.
But then if you so choose, you can delve deeper. Passwords can be left lying around, you can stealthily watch as your SO types or you may even share your passwords with each other. Either way, it opens the door for reading more private material, such as e-mails or messages on networking sites. Or, say your SO leaves his or her cell phone lying around. With just a few key punches, you have access to text messages.
While this is all easy, should you do it?
Are you violating your SO's trust if you read their text messages and e-mails? Or, should everything be fair game, because, let's face it: Why does it matter if you have nothing to hide?
Have any of you snooped on an SO? How did you do it? Did your SO find out? Did he/she care? Is snooping OK?
posted by Anonymous at 8:30 AM
6 Comments:
I have a friend who did some online dating. And one guy she was planing to meet keep wanting to pick her up. She woundn't do that (as part of her rules), and asked the guy for his date of birth, and full name. She told him that she always runs a back ground check on any one she meets online that she is going to meet in person. He gave her all his info, and laughed "go ahead and check". So thinking she woundn't find anything because of his comment, she was supprised to find he not only had he been in jail a few time. But it was because of abuse! And he had several restraining orders on him also. So thank God she did some 'snooping'. Needless to say, she called him back and told him what she found...they never spoke again.
Good for your friend for checking up on that guy. The dude must be pretty stupid to think she would go out with him after his jail time for abuse. It's definitely a good argument for snooping.
Current man in my life left a box clicked to stay logged in on his email... I feel pretty proud of myself after reading this that I simply hit "logout" and read nothing!
I did google him though. Nothing he hadn't already told me and it was all good things:)
i have a friend who knows the password to her exboyfriend's blog and logs in to read his private entries and then proceeds to get angry when he writes mean things about her or talk about other girls... some things are private for a reason...
My BF had an ex who kept emailing him and telling him how much she still loved him and wanted him back. I knew the password to his email, and I did a little snooping. Seeing her emails made me furious, until I saw his responses... he told her that he had never been happier and that he had no interest in being with her again! :) I never said anything to him about it, and as far as I know, he has no clue. I don't snoop anymore, though!
Snooping is okay in the "I'm going to check up on nhis history" sense....not really so much when it is going through his e-mail and cell phone.
There is too much up for interpretation and could cause waaaayyyy to much drama!
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