The decorating debate
I've always been big on pictures.
Scratch that — I'm a FANATIC when it comes to pictures. Taking them, being in them and displaying them for all to see...so much so, that I am pretty sure I missed my calling to be a photographer.
So when my boyfriend and I started dating, I was anxious to get that first picture taken. And let me tell you, the first few of the two of us were not really the greatest — his eyes were closed, my hair was in my face — all bad!!
But the day came when we finally did get a sweet one — but it was about four months into our relationship, and it started the internal debate. Is it too soon to put the picture in a frame? And at that point, is it too soon to put it where people can see? Although some people may think four months is a long time in a relationship, it's really not at all...and there are no guarantees at four months that this relationship will go the distance. So is it really worth it to buy a frame and put it out for all to see?
I didn't think so at that time. I waited, I think, about two more months to put the picture out in my apartment, and then slowly built the number of photos of us up from there.
It may seem silly to put so much thought into displaying a picture, but really, how wants to put it up only to take it down a week later? Especially during such a short time dating — and then, of course, you have to deal with your significant other's reaction. If the person is a commitment-phobe or doesn't like to be rushed, seeing that picture up could spell disaster to the relationship.
Has this ever happened to you? And what was the reaction when the pictures finally started going up?
Scratch that — I'm a FANATIC when it comes to pictures. Taking them, being in them and displaying them for all to see...so much so, that I am pretty sure I missed my calling to be a photographer.
So when my boyfriend and I started dating, I was anxious to get that first picture taken. And let me tell you, the first few of the two of us were not really the greatest — his eyes were closed, my hair was in my face — all bad!!
But the day came when we finally did get a sweet one — but it was about four months into our relationship, and it started the internal debate. Is it too soon to put the picture in a frame? And at that point, is it too soon to put it where people can see? Although some people may think four months is a long time in a relationship, it's really not at all...and there are no guarantees at four months that this relationship will go the distance. So is it really worth it to buy a frame and put it out for all to see?
I didn't think so at that time. I waited, I think, about two more months to put the picture out in my apartment, and then slowly built the number of photos of us up from there.
It may seem silly to put so much thought into displaying a picture, but really, how wants to put it up only to take it down a week later? Especially during such a short time dating — and then, of course, you have to deal with your significant other's reaction. If the person is a commitment-phobe or doesn't like to be rushed, seeing that picture up could spell disaster to the relationship.
Has this ever happened to you? And what was the reaction when the pictures finally started going up?
posted by Anonymous at 1:50 PM
6 Comments:
Start by placing the picture say on the frig with magnet or piece of tape with other shots of family, friends and pets. That way it shows you enjoy the shot but not committed to a frame or relationship. Once everything looks hunky dory, then take that same picture and place it in a frame for a more permanent place for all to see. This will now show your BF that things are more serious and you hold him in a higher regard now.
I have never considered whether it was "appropriate" to frame a picture. If I like it, I frame it. It usually just takes a long time anyway because we're in the digital age, and I am pretty lazy when it comes to going to Wal-Mart to get prints.
maybe in the digital age, the question is when is it too soon to put the couple picture as your main facebook or myspace profile picture?
I agree with edge!
Edge, I like your advice!
My husband and I five years two kids in I work he goes to school. I work full time pay for everything we need however, we live with his mother till he is done with school. It is a hard place to be as you cannot talk badly about his mom and claims you always come first but, please explain why he allows her to take everything from me I've never claimed my kids because he let's her I am unable to do any right. I am just A slut like my mother and my mother is uneducated like his mother. THERE IS NO WINNING WITH A MOMMAS boy.
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