I like him...he likes her?
What would you do if you found out the guy you have been seeing recently had a well-known crush on one of his female friends, who was in fact, in love with someone else?
This is a dilemna facing one of my good friends. She has recently started seeing this guy, only to find out that he had long-harboring feelings for someone else — someone, it should be noted, that it doesn't seem he has much of a chance with. It's a fairly tricky situation, isn't it? My friend found out this interesting tid-bit from a third party, so there is no telling whether or not there is any truth to it, but the idea that it might be true is still out there.
Which brings me to this question — would you date someone who had a known crush on someone else, even if nothing was to come of it? My only worry would be that the other person would decide that it might be a good idea to give dating the person I liked a try, and then I would be cast aside fairly quickly. At the same time, is it worth not giving a possible relationship a try just because there may or may not be a chance he has an interest in someone else?
It's a tough choice, because really — don't most people have multiple crushes at one point or another? Most of those, we don't act on anyway, so they shouldn't be all that big of deal!
What would you do in this situation?
This is a dilemna facing one of my good friends. She has recently started seeing this guy, only to find out that he had long-harboring feelings for someone else — someone, it should be noted, that it doesn't seem he has much of a chance with. It's a fairly tricky situation, isn't it? My friend found out this interesting tid-bit from a third party, so there is no telling whether or not there is any truth to it, but the idea that it might be true is still out there.
Which brings me to this question — would you date someone who had a known crush on someone else, even if nothing was to come of it? My only worry would be that the other person would decide that it might be a good idea to give dating the person I liked a try, and then I would be cast aside fairly quickly. At the same time, is it worth not giving a possible relationship a try just because there may or may not be a chance he has an interest in someone else?
It's a tough choice, because really — don't most people have multiple crushes at one point or another? Most of those, we don't act on anyway, so they shouldn't be all that big of deal!
What would you do in this situation?
posted by Anonymous at 12:00 AM
4 Comments:
I would have to say that I would probably continue dating the guy. If after a bit he still couldnt give this same girl up then Im sure I would move on. Guess I would really have to be put in that situation to actually decide on what I would really do.
Dump him. He'll remain stuck on that person until he gets her or figures out that he's never going to get her. The latter usually takes a while... sometimes, more than a decade. (Yes, this happened to me.)
Don't waste your time by staying with someone who just thinks you are a consolation prize. You're better than that. Find someone who has a crush on you!
I would probably do the same as Lola, but Jaded gives good advice. If your friends dumps her, and the guy does eventually come around, they can always get back together.
While I don't wanna be a consolation priza, as Jaded said, I'm a bit stubborn and would probably convince myself I could change him.
Yeah, I tend to set up for heartbreak but what fun is it if you're always leaving something just because it might not work?
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