What it's like to choose....
...and thank goodness, I have no idea what it is like. I made a deal with myself that I would take all precautions necessary not to get pregnant unless I was married, and knock on wood, so far so good.
But recently, I was reading an article by a young professional woman who got pregnant and chose to terminate the pregnancy — a hard decision for her to make, but her reasoning, right or wrong, started when her pill was rendered ineffective after she used antibiotics and steroids to treat poison ivy. She and her fiance were careful — on top of the pill, they also used a condom...which as luck would have it, broke. Not being financially secure, or prepared for a baby, the couple decided that abortion would be the best option.
Now, I understand that this is a very touchy subject. The lines a very clearly drawn between those who don't think abortion is okay in any case, others who think abortion is only okay in rape and incest cases and then of course, there are those who believe it is a woman's right to choose.
For me, I felt for the young woman, who used more than a little precaution and it still happened — I think it is her business and hers alone. I have never been in the position of what it would be like to face an unwanted pregnancy and I hope I never have too...but it's a tough issue to think about, especially if you are in a sexually-active relationship — the possibility is always there, careful or not.
My boyfriend and I have never broached the subject of what we would do if an accident should occur, but I wonder if maybe there should be a plan in place. Or that all couples should at least broach the subject...better safe than facing a hard decision.
Have you ever had this conversation? What was it like, and what decisions did you come to?
**As a note, I know this is a hot topic with many strong feelings for or against, but please try to maintain a sense of civility when answering or commenting. Thanks!**
But recently, I was reading an article by a young professional woman who got pregnant and chose to terminate the pregnancy — a hard decision for her to make, but her reasoning, right or wrong, started when her pill was rendered ineffective after she used antibiotics and steroids to treat poison ivy. She and her fiance were careful — on top of the pill, they also used a condom...which as luck would have it, broke. Not being financially secure, or prepared for a baby, the couple decided that abortion would be the best option.
Now, I understand that this is a very touchy subject. The lines a very clearly drawn between those who don't think abortion is okay in any case, others who think abortion is only okay in rape and incest cases and then of course, there are those who believe it is a woman's right to choose.
For me, I felt for the young woman, who used more than a little precaution and it still happened — I think it is her business and hers alone. I have never been in the position of what it would be like to face an unwanted pregnancy and I hope I never have too...but it's a tough issue to think about, especially if you are in a sexually-active relationship — the possibility is always there, careful or not.
My boyfriend and I have never broached the subject of what we would do if an accident should occur, but I wonder if maybe there should be a plan in place. Or that all couples should at least broach the subject...better safe than facing a hard decision.
Have you ever had this conversation? What was it like, and what decisions did you come to?
**As a note, I know this is a hot topic with many strong feelings for or against, but please try to maintain a sense of civility when answering or commenting. Thanks!**
posted by Anonymous at 2:10 PM
2 Comments:
I think the best contingency plan is just to remember to stay calm and cope the best you can. It's called "unplanned" for a reason, so there's really nothing you can do ahead of time.
What you would do if you got pregnant is something you have got to discuss, no matter how careful you think you are being! My bf and I don't plan to have any kids, even after we get married. However, we have talked about what would happen if our precautions failed. While I support the right of other women to decide whether or not to have a baby, I personally could not have an abortion. He understands this, and accepts my decision.
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