Men and tears
Has it come to anyone else's attention that men are completely freaked out when a women starts to cry? Even if they have not caused the tears to start flowing, I think that men believe once the tears start, they won't ever stop.
And so men become deathly afraid when a women's eyes become even just a little teary.
This is not to say that men don't cry, because I have seen many men shed a tear or two. Some aren't that comfortable with their masculinity, and therefore try to keep it all inside, but for the most part — men have no problems crying in situations that warrant a few tears.
But if a girlfriend/wife/friend/co-worker sheds a tear? Watch out — the men go running in all directions of uncomfortable. This week has been more than a little stressful in my own little world. I'm trying to juggle eight million things and actually do my job at the same time — let's just say, I'm not juggling so well. And I thought a good stress-reliever would be to call my BF, who is in fact, usually a very good comforter and is excellent at cheering me up.
But when my voice got a little wavery, he asked, "Are you crying?" And it was accompanied by a tone that almost resembled shock. I knew then I should have called one of my girls and gathered with some adult beverages. It's not that he's never seen me cry (he has) or that he hasn't handled the situation (which he also has done), but I think the mid-week tears were a bit much for him and that the simple explanation of stress didn't really explain the tears in his head.
How does your man handle your tears that seem to come at the weirdest of times? And men, what goes through your head when you see a girl tear up?
And so men become deathly afraid when a women's eyes become even just a little teary.
This is not to say that men don't cry, because I have seen many men shed a tear or two. Some aren't that comfortable with their masculinity, and therefore try to keep it all inside, but for the most part — men have no problems crying in situations that warrant a few tears.
But if a girlfriend/wife/friend/co-worker sheds a tear? Watch out — the men go running in all directions of uncomfortable. This week has been more than a little stressful in my own little world. I'm trying to juggle eight million things and actually do my job at the same time — let's just say, I'm not juggling so well. And I thought a good stress-reliever would be to call my BF, who is in fact, usually a very good comforter and is excellent at cheering me up.
But when my voice got a little wavery, he asked, "Are you crying?" And it was accompanied by a tone that almost resembled shock. I knew then I should have called one of my girls and gathered with some adult beverages. It's not that he's never seen me cry (he has) or that he hasn't handled the situation (which he also has done), but I think the mid-week tears were a bit much for him and that the simple explanation of stress didn't really explain the tears in his head.
How does your man handle your tears that seem to come at the weirdest of times? And men, what goes through your head when you see a girl tear up?
posted by Anonymous at 3:33 PM
2 Comments:
Luckily, my boyfriend handles tears well (even irrational ones), albeit followed by the words: "I don't understand why you're crying."
The best thing a boy can do for a weeping willow is give her a hug, tell her he loves her and then fix her a big bowl of ice cream. With sprinkles.
Sanjaya anyone...
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